Found out problem with trainer
On a friday, with a weekend and my girlfriend not being around I decided to do what any other normal red-blooded male would do, use a trainer to make the largest army possible.
So i got the trainer, ran it and found it wouldnt do the extra troops in villages, as I wasnt trying to make sure no soldiers were marked as killed, I never used the f11 key. but aftyer a nice skirmish game I found that even though I hadnt pressed the key, my troop deaths were 0, so next game I played, I pressed f11 and tons of villagers, the guys who wrote the trainer must have got the keys mixed up. f11 does the tons of troops.